Tips and Tricks: How to Make Wedding Planning Fun for Both of You
July 18, 2018 by Just Marry!
Making Wedding Planning Fun
Tips and Tricks from the Recently Hitched is a series featuring real advice from real newlyweds. We’ll share their tips and offer a few of our own tricks, sometimes bringing our vendor partners into the mix. Together, we’ll make sure you have the best planning experience—and wedding day—possible! Be sure to stalk us on all of our social media platforms to discover different ways we address every topic in this series.
Today’s tip comes from Kate, who hosted a destination wedding here in Orlando this past April. Kate first mentioned that she wished she had used a spreadsheet and referenced a timeline when she began her planning to help stay organized. We think this is a wonderful idea, and it’s one of the reasons we send out a Ceremony Planning Worksheet to all of our couples!
Kate’s other words of advice also resonated with us, and we’re focusing on them today. Here’s what she had to say:
“I should’ve had a conversation with my husband about how much he really wanted to be involved. He liked to take part but having to cross check decisions with him made everything take longer. After the fact he said he probably didn’t need to be checked with on so many things because he usually agreed with me anyway.”
This is a very helpful tip, Kate! We feel this translates to couples of all kinds. There’s typically one partner who loves to be involved in the planning and one who doesn’t. In those cases where one partner has little interest in participating in the planning, it can be frustrating and time-consuming to force them to be a part of every decision.
To save you some headaches and stress and (more importantly) make wedding planning more fun for both of you, we recommend that you pick and choose the planning elements where you involve a less-than-enthusiastic future spouse. Most of the time there are at least a few areas where that person won’t mind weighing in. Here are a few:
- The cake. It’s rare to find someone who doesn’t enjoy sampling cake! While your partner might not care much about choosing the design, he or she will likely have fun participating in the cake tasting, choosing cake and filling flavors. It’s a small thing but it will still make a great planning memory!
- The menu. Similar to the cake, choosing the reception menu is often an activity that both halves of a couple love to do. If your caterer offers a tasting, both of you should participate and voice your opinions so you can be sure you enjoy your wedding meal.
- The honeymoon. See if your partner will take on the task of choosing a honeymoon destination (or at least narrowing down the options so you can review them together). Your partner can communicate with your wedding planner or travel agent to get pricing and make travel arrangements. You’d be surprised how much pressure this can take off of your shoulders as the primary planner!
For more tips on how to involve a partner who might not be all that interested in wedding planning, download our handy infographic here:
Recently-weds and wedding vendors, we’d love to hear from you with your own Tips & Tricks! If you have a topic you’d like to contribute to a future Tips and Tricks post or you’d like to join the Just Marry! family while planning your wedding, e-mail us at email@example.com and we’ll get back to you right away!