7 Ways to Keep Positive After Postponing a Wedding | Organizing
Nearly-weds in 2020 are going through a unique situation that most couples never have to deal with: postponing a wedding. I have helped many couples postpone their weddings over the past few months…and I also recently had to postpone my own. Trust me, I know what you’re going through!
While none of us could have ever dreamed that wedding planning would turn out this way, I assure you it is possible to stay positive after postponing a wedding. Read on to learn the ways I have found to help celebrate this change!
#1 – Remember the positives of postponing a wedding
Once you’ve processed the initial shock of having to postpone discuss all the positives with your partner. Remind yourselves of the reasons you made this decision, and the things that will be better on your new date. Since my fiancé and I come from large families spread out all over the country, moving our date meant we didn’t have to cut any friends off our guest list. Our families will also feel more comfortable flying in. Not having masks in our photos and nervous guests were two more big positives for us. Plus, we now have way more time to plan and make everything perfect, as well as save more money!
#2 – Treat yourselves
When postponing a wedding, you’re making a huge decision that not many people ever have to do. It’s not always easy to coordinate your schedule with that of your future spouse, your venue, each of your vendors, your bridal party, and your families. Add in informing all your guests about the changed date and it is exhausting.
You deserve something special! Get your favorite take-out for dinner, treat yourself to some ice cream, indulge in your favorite show, or pop open a bottle of bubbly! While it may feel silly to celebrate something that otherwise feels sad, it is that much more important to celebrate the change.
#3 – Take a planning break
After all the time and energy put into postponing a wedding, there is no need to rush back into your new plans! Take a well-earned break and get back into planning when you are good and ready. You have extra time now to dive back into the details and changes that need to be made. You might as well schedule in some relaxation time!
#4 – Add something special
Is there something you’ve been wanting to indulge in for your wedding day but haven’t felt it was necessary? Something you didn’t really have the room for in your budget, but now that you have more time to save you can afford it? Do it!
For me and my fiancé, we moved from a fall wedding to a summer one, so we added on a local ice cream cart for the reception. It’s something I wanted from the beginning, and now it seems absolutely necessary to have!
#5 – Focus on the true reason for the postponement
Through all the ups and downs that come with postponing a wedding, it’s important to focus on the true reason you are doing this – to be married! If you and your partner can make it through these unimaginable tough times, you’ll be able to get through anything together. You will have your person by your side forever, even if it takes a little longer to get there.
#6 – Get married anyway
While it may be nontraditional to get legally married before your official wedding celebration, it could be a more practical decision for you and your future spouse when postponing a wedding. It could give you time to get a head start on things like changing last names and merging accounts. Plus, you get to say “husband” or “wife” for longer!
Especially if your original date has significance to you, consider commemorating the day by getting legally married without the originally planned party and have the big celebration on your alternate date. There are tons of options when it comes to mini-monies and micro weddings surrounded by your immediate families, or you can just have a romantic elopement and tell everyone later. Just think: you’d get to have a magical wedding day twice!
#7 – Celebrate!
When your original wedding date comes, make it a special day! Plan a date day for the two of you, a day trip, or go on a vacation if you can. Fill the day with your favorite foods and activities, play your favorite song and dance in the living room, or order a small cake from your wedding cake baker. There are so many ways you can make this day special, and it just gives you another reason to celebrate your love!
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7 Ways to Keep Positive After Postponing a Wedding | Organizing
