What Being Married for One Year Has Taught Me

May 29, 2019 by Just Marry!

What Being Married for One Year Has Taught Me

With my one-year anniversary coming up this Saturday, I can’t help but think back on what I’ve learned after being married for nearly a year. Time has flown! It feels like just yesterday we said our “I do’s.”

During this past year, my husband and I have been asked these two questions many times: “How is married life?” and “Does it feel any different?”

The simple answer is that married life is great! Being married feels different at times but overall, not so much.

Despite my simple answers, marriage has taught me many things, including why it’s so great and, at times, “different”. I’m going to share what I’ve learned this past year and show you some behind-the-scenes of what happily ever after really means!

Oh…P.S. Big shout-out to my amazing wedding photographer, Southern Portrait and Video!

#1 - ARGUMENTS WILL HAPPEN

Married life isn’t always hunky-dory. Arguments are going to happen between you and your spouse. Maybe you don’t see eye-to-eye on a certain subject, or maybe your patience is low because you had a bad day at work. Whatever it is, you will get on each other’s nerves, and arguments, big or small, will happen. That’s okay! How you handle the argument is key.

#2 - YOU NEED PATIENCE AND FORGIVENESS

Having patience and forgiving one another is key to any argument that may arise. It’s not easy, but it is necessary. Hannah Montana said it best: “Nobody’s Perfect,” so we should know that we are all bound to make a few mistakes.

Having patience with your spouse can keep arguments at bay, but your patience can wear thin and an argument can happen. Knowing when and how to forgive someone is the key to any relationship, most especially a lifelong commitment. The love you have in your heart for each other should leave no room for grudges.

Remember, the future is never a sure thing. There may not be an opportunity tomorrow to forgive today’s mistakes.

#3 - DECIDE AND COMPROMISE TOGETHER

Making decisions as a married couple seems to have a deeper meaning. Maybe it’s because of the legal document you signed, or maybe it’s because the decisions you make now are ones that will more or less affect your life later on.

Whatever the case, you will have to make decisions with your partner. Some of the decisions you and your spouse have to make won’t have an easy solution. Finding a good compromise will help you in the long run so there are no grudges or built-up anger at one another for the decisions you’ll make.

#4 - EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED

Being married is going to have unexpected moments, some of which may not excite you. You may run into unexpected car repairs, house repairs, having to replace expensive appliances, etc. Shock over these things is to be expected, but getting mad or panicking does no one any good.

At the end of the day, you still need to decide together how to handle the situation. Rolling with the punches will make that unexpected blow a lot easier and will ease your stress as well as your partner’s stress.

#5 - BEING MARRIED IS A COMMITMENT

Marriage is not something that works just because you signed a piece of paper. It is a daily commitment to love one another through everything that life throws at you. Some days are easier than others. But it takes both of you showing up every day and choosing one another time and time again over anyone else in the world.

The love my husband and I have for each other far surpasses what you read about in fairytales or see in the movies. Has this past year gone as we planned? Not really. But I show up for him day in and day out because he deserves a partner who is fighting for him like he’s fighting for me.

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What Being Married for One Year Has Taught Me

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