Thinking of Inviting Kids to Your Wedding? | Analyzing

September 4, 2019 by Just Marry!

Thinking of Inviting Kids to Your Wedding? | Analyzing

Nearly-weds, are you pondering the idea of inviting kids to your wedding? I know a lot goes into this decision! When you jump into your wedding planning, one of the most crucial steps is building your guest list…which means you need to decide early on whether you plan to invite children.

Today I’m sharing everything you need to know when it comes to inviting kids to weddings, and what to do if after reading this information you decide you don’t want to.

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HOW TO MAKE INVITING KIDS WORK

If you know for certain that you want to have kids at your wedding, here are some important tips you should keep in mind:

#1 - HAVE A PLAN B (AND MAYBE EVEN A PLAN C)

Do you have someone in mind to be your flower girl and/or ring bearer? Feel free to invite them! They can bring light to the festivities through their playful natures. That said, kids can be unpredictable, so it’s important to also think of a Plan B and maybe even a Plan C for your flower girl/ring bearer.

For example, if they’re supposed to walk down the aisle alone, have one of the other attendants prepared to walk with them if they get stage fright, or have one of their parents stand by in case they’re needed.

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#2 - MAINTAIN THEIR ROUTINES

If the kids you’re inviting still take naps or have early bedtimes, provide them and their parents with ways for the kids to still be able to get their needed sleep. If you have kids in the wedding party, don’t have them show up until it’s closer to ceremony time. If you want them there during the day or there’s no way for their parents to divide and conquer, maybe consider having an extra room that the kids can use to sleep in when needed.

#3 - SNACKS ARE A MUST!

We remind our couples to eat on their wedding day, so why would it be any different for kids? One way to keep kids happy is with a full belly. If you’re having kids at your wedding, have plenty of kid-friendly food and drinks to keep them occupied and upbeat!

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#4 - BRING DISTRACTIONS...AND THEN SOME!

Kids love toys and arts and crafts but can switch from one distraction to the other in a matter of minutes. Providing toys, books to read, coloring books, and games for the kids will help keep them occupied during the wedding. If they’re getting ready with you, have those items in the ready room. If they’re just coming to the wedding as guests, have the items under their seats at the ceremony and/or have them at their table for reception. Not exactly sure what to provide them? Ask their parents! Parents can bring a toy or two for their child and can also tell you where to find cheap books or non-messy arts and crafts supplies.

#5 - HAVE A KIDS' TABLE

A kids’ table is a great way to allow parents to mingle with the other adults and take a breather from parenting. You can provide the kids with some activities and/or crafts (like mentioned above) to keep the kids occupied and having fun. One of our couples who had a kids’ table brought a large cardboard paper “tablecloth” and some crayons, allowing the kids to color on it.

If the kids are younger, try not to put the kids’ table too far from their parents. Young children might get anxious when they look around and don’t see Mom and Dad. If, on the other hand, your flower girl and ring bearer are the only children present, feel free to seat them with their parents.

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#6 - HIRE A BABYSITTER

Something that’s becoming more popular is hiring a babysitter to watch the kids during the wedding. There are many companies that will come to your wedding venue and will occupy your kids throughout the evening with toys, games, and arts and crafts. This is a great way for parents to enjoy the evening while knowing their kids are being safely cared for and having fun!

#7 - WHEN IN DOUBT, PARENTS KNOW BEST

You can only do so much when it comes to making children as comfortable as possible. Don’t feel like you have to bend over backwards for them. When in doubt, their parents know best and should step up to ensure their little ones are on their best behavior. Remember, it’s your wedding, and you should enjoy it to the fullest!

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NOT INVITING KIDS TO YOUR WEDDING

The tips above may seem overwhelming. Not to worry! If you’ve decided that you want an adult-only wedding, that’s totally fine and a perfectly acceptable decision. Here are some thoughts about this:

#1 - CONSIDER A COMPROMISE

While you may not want your wedding to be overrun by kids, you could make a few exceptions. For instance, you may invite kids within your families but not those of friends. That way, you avoid upsetting close relatives and yet don’t have too many children attending the wedding.

Alternately, you may have someone in your wedding party who has a child. You could always make an exception and allow them to bring their child. But remember: too many compromises can turn into what you didn’t want in the first place.

#2 - BE DIRECT ABOUT YOUR DECISION

Let your guests know about your decision. A great way to let them know is by correctly addressing the Save the Dates and wedding invitations. If it reads “Mr. & Mrs. Smith,” that means the invitation is only addressed to those two people. If it reads “The Smith Family,” that means the invitation includes the kids.

If you want to let guests know before you send out the invites or if you want to reinforce the decision, you can either tell them in person, have a family member tell them, or put “adult-only” on your wedding website. In any case, you need to make it known so there’s no confusion down the road.

#3 - PREPARE FOR UNHAPPY GUESTS

Some guests might be unhappy with your decision about not inviting kids to your wedding. Don’t let them argue their way into changing your mind. You made this choice for a reason, and no matter the reason, it’s your wedding and you have the final say.

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LEARN MORE ABOUT WEDDING ETIQUETTE

If you’ve got more questions about wedding etiquette, we’ve got you covered! Check out some of our previous posts where we provide you with our best tips on how to properly deal with your guests and some popular etiquette questions:

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Thinking of Inviting Kids to Your Wedding? | Analyzing

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