Important Wedding Guest Etiquette You Need to Know (Part 1)

October 3, 2016 by Just Marry!

Wedding Guest Etiquette

As wedding planners, we get to witness the best and the worst of everything involving weddings. This gives us a unique perspective on things like guest behavior. You’d really be astonished at some of the things we’ve witnessed!

In our ongoing goal of making sure all of our clients have a perfect wedding day, we thought we’d share these essential points of etiquette for all of the guests out there. We’ll start with the “Dos” and move on to the “Don’ts” in our next post. 

Here we go:


  • Be punctual. It’s just plain impolite to show up late to a wedding. Do your best to get there early and take a seat so you don’t hold everything up. If the worst happens and you arrive after the ceremony has started, wait until the entire wedding party has finished processing and then take your seat near the back to be the least disruptive.
  • Remain aware of the photographer. We can’t recall the number of guests we’ve seen eyeballing the wedding party and making faces or staring at their phone during the ceremony, all while the photographer captured the moment. Always be aware that the wedding is being photographed and you could be caught on camera at any point in time.
  • Sit down during the ceremony. Getting up out of your seat is disruptive. Stay in your seat for the entire ceremony rather than moving seats if you see an empty one closer to the altar. Unless you have a disruptive child that needs attention, you shouldn’t interrupt by moving.
  • Thank the couple and their families. It’s always nice to see guests thanking the couple as well as their families for inviting them and having them as a part of their special day.
  • Thank the vendors. You may not have hired them, but they are also providing a service to you as well as the happy couple. Expressing thanks is a lovely gesture.
  • Be helpful if you see help is needed. Whether the couple has hired vendors to assist them or not, it’s great to have guests appreciate the hard work that goes into planning a wedding and offering assistance if they see it’s needed. This can be as simple as opening a door for the wedding party or helping guests find their seats at the reception.
  • Dress to the theme. When a couple plans a themed wedding, it’s clearly something significant to them. We love when guests take themed weddings seriously and dress up for them. We’ve had guests dress to a red, white, and black Mickey and Minnie theme, in a dapper, old-fashioned style for an Up movie theme, and in vintage flapper-themed clothing. So much fun!
  • Try to be involved in the cake cutting even if it is a large group. The couple spent a lot of money on their wedding cake, but it’s often one of the least-observed parts of the reception. Do your best to be around to watch while they cut it.
  • Have fun! It’s a happy day and everyone should enjoy it.

Do you have any other etiquette questions or are you interested in having an Orlando destination wedding? Just leave us a comment or e-mail us at and we’ll get started on your planning right away!

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